A goal in life for many of us is to be in happy and healthy relationship but most of us can also agree that accomplishing that is easier said than done. The media constantly feeds us the notion that romance and sex are the key components to a relationship—at least initially, we’re led to believe, being attractive, being attracted to, being desired, and being pursued are a huge part of the dating game.
This makes some sense: Humans are instinctive creatures at our core, and although our mating practices are not as instinctively driven as those of other creatures, there’s still there’s a lot that goes into choosing our mates that is simply, well, natural. Yes, we may be fundamentally logical and practical in our choices, but there’s something in our makeup that strives for the kind of genes we want to pass along to the next generation.
Having said that, let’s turn to what really sustains a relationship over time, especially after the first blush of attraction has faded. Romance and sex are vital to any intimate relationship. But there’s no excuse to get lazy and just not bother being fully present as romance rolls into the routine of daily life.